Researchers say there's one method of disciplining your kids that works better than the rest, especially among pre-teens and teens.
Charlotte Sullivan, 12, says she knows her parents get mad when she leaves a mess.
"Dirty dishes or socks on the floor... which I do a lot," she said.
Her dad Jason says it's not what Charlotte is doing, but what she's saying.
"Charlotte's typical tween sarcasm gets a little disrespectful and then my voice is going to get a bit sharp," Jason said.
Developmental psychologist John Gibbs surveyed kids in grades 5, 8 and 10 to measure the type of discipline kids get at home. Researchers found benefits when parents used something called "inductive discipline."
"You're trying to induce in the child an awareness in how the transgression, whatever it was, adversely impacted others," Gibbs said.
For example, instead of taking away cell phones or grounding your kids,you might say to them, "I never expected that kind of behavior from you," or "I expect better from you next time."
"If the child cares about the relationship with the parent, that's going to make an impact," Gibbs said.
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